Some bad news: Your boyfriend is more likely to cheat with a co-worker than any other woman. Here's how to keep it from happening.
It seems like every day you hear about another celeb hooking up with a hot co-star on set, while his or her significant other is out of sight and obviously out of mind. And as much as we'd like to think it's the kind of thing that only happens in Hollywood, on-the-job liaisons are just as common outside Tinseltown. In fact, statistics show that the work-place has become the number one breeding ground for cheating. According to a study done by infidelity expert, Dr Shirley Class, 62% of men who admitted to having an affair had done so with someone they met at work.
'You often spend more time with co-workers than with your partner, which can create intense bonding,' says Dr Bonnie Eaker Weil, author of
Can We Cure and Forgive Adultery? (Infinity Publishing). To ensure your guy is doing his job rather than his coffee-break buddy, follow these tips.
| Know His Business |
Sure, it may get boring when he goes on and on about his pain-in-the-ass boss or other people he works with, but if he can't talk to you about the work-place highs and lows, he may open up to someone who understands all the pressure he's under. 'The more you know, the more he can share with you and the less likely he'll be to confide in his attractive co-worker,' says Dr Don-David Lusterman, author of Intensity: A Survival Guide (New Harbinger Publications).
To come across as genuinely interested (rather than annoyingly nosy), ask specific questions that address how he handled certain tasks or dealt with a difficult higher-up. Otherwise, it's like pulling teeth. 'If you simply ask him how work is or whats up, he'll say 'It's fine' or 'Nothing,'' says Dr Alon Gratch, author of If Men Could Talk (Little, Brown and Company). 'But when you ask targeted questions, it's easier to get him talking.' With some insight, you'll also be able to determine if his late nights make sense or seem suspicious. Is he working on a project that would require him to work more hours or send him out of town for a long weekend? If he knows that you know what he's up to, it's harder for him to pull late nights or grab drinks with a cute co-worker without any explanation. |
| Be a Presence |
| Identify The Biggest Threat |
| Stay On His Mind 24/7 |