Ex-It Strategy

I would just like to say, being an avid 'COSMO fundi' - I LOVE the quick reads - but I have to say, February 2010's quick read (Ex It strategy) really hit home for me.

See, like many females, I too have felt the heartache and turmoil of an evil male whom I’d dedicated my life, my sanity, my virginity (and lavish gifts) to for over 4 years, only to be left, for no real reason, except that in his mind, I made him miserable.

Plagued by memories, dreams and thoughts upon thoughts,  I pulled myself together! Well, at least I thought I did. Nine months later when he informed me that he was getting married (yes, you read correctly!) all those feelings that I had bottled up came rushing out like a bat out of hell, so I broke all contact. Then my best friend informed me that he was going to be his best man.
I just couldn't get away, it was as if the world was against me. As Beth says in the article: ‘Foetal position. Rocking. Corner. You get the picture'. I cried, I screamed, and of course, I drank, but I could not rid myself of the thought of him and the painful scar that he'd left on me.

Then I read this ‘Trying to rid yourself of the past is a present-tense action, which means that I - not life - was the one keeping him in my now.’

Thank you COSMO, and particularly, thank you Beth Adams! Your article got me over a tremendous hurdle. I realised that I was the one that put it there in the first place.

Now, I can smile again and carry on being a fun, fearless, female. 

Keep up the terrific work!

*Name has been changed

Author: *Blaise Nations