Cleverly dubbed 'feline confidence' (purr!), it goes beyond making eye contact and serving up a strong handshake – it requires harnessing the power of your sexuality. 'Certain movements, expressions, and gestures send signals that subconsciously pique men's interest,' says Peter Andersen, author of The Complete Idiot's Guide To Body Language. 'And when you sense that a guy is into you, it gives you a real boost.'
Which is certainly not to say feeling great about yourself relies on gaining a guy's approval. Sex kittens have a high level of self-validation. They refuse to fall prey to body fascism and know transmitting an irresistible vibe to guys has more to do with how comfortable they are with themselves than it does with achieving physical perfection. The bottom line is this: acting confident is a self-fulfilling prophecy. These tricks will make it happen for you:
| AT A PARTY |
Undress Slooowly
When you're self-conscious, the impetus is to get naked and into bed straightaway. But spend at least five seconds removing each item of clothing one by one. 'It's enticing for him to watch you shed every layer, plus pacing yourself puts you in control,' says Stephanie Dillon, author of The Woman's Guide to Total Self-Esteem. Nothing says 'sex kitten' like extending across the mattress before sex. 'Lie flat with your arms up over your head,' Yeomans says. 'Not only will the stretch put you in a lusty frame of mind, but your stomach will look flatter and your boobs will be lifted.'
Tilt Your Head Back
During foreplay, let your head and torso fall back so he can kiss and caress your throat, collarbone and breasts. 'Revealing this vulnerable area shows you're uninhibited,' explains Marx. 'And by surrendering to the moment, you'll be free to focus on sensations, which boosts your confidence.'
Show Your Pleasure
Guys ache to hear you make sounds during the act, but it's important to convey your bliss visually, too. In a US study, men shown photos depicting sexual acts looked at the women's faces for longer than they gazed at anything below the belt. The reason: They were searching for signs the females were enjoying themselves. 'When he sees you're having a good time, his kisses and touches will become more passionate, increasing your satisfaction too,' says Nelson.
Straddle Him
A true sex kitten is always ready to pounce. So, when you hop on top of your partner, it shows your sexual hunger, and that's a blatant clue to your between-the-sheets energy. 'Straddling him reinforces that you are steering the experience,' says Nelson. 'In addition to amping up your sense of erotic empowerment, he'll be excited by the fact that you're dominating him.'
Get Spooned
Bring that self-assured sex kitten attitude with you after sex, too. Lie comfortably on your side, then pull your partner up behind you. 'Feeling his privates pushed against you will remind you of the naughty act that went down and underline your sexual hold over him,' says Nelson. To drive the point home, grab both his hands and place them on your breasts. It instantly sends him a message that even though the sex itself is over, you still emanate brazen seductiveness. |
| ON A DATE |
| IN BED |