Cleverly dubbed 'feline confidence' (purr!), it goes beyond making eye contact and serving up a strong handshake – it requires harnessing the power of your sexuality. 'Certain movements, expressions, and gestures send signals that subconsciously pique men's interest,' says Peter Andersen, author of The Complete Idiot's Guide To Body Language. 'And when you sense that a guy is into you, it gives you a real boost.'
Which is certainly not to say feeling great about yourself relies on gaining a guy's approval. Sex kittens have a high level of self-validation. They refuse to fall prey to body fascism and know transmitting an irresistible vibe to guys has more to do with how comfortable they are with themselves than it does with achieving physical perfection. The bottom line is this: acting confident is a self-fulfilling prophecy. These tricks will make it happen for you:
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||Take Long Strides
Sex kittens don't scamper around a room – they glide through it. This puts all eyes on you, which gives you a surge of self-possession. To master a smooth saunter, 'Scan your surroundings for a familiar face so you have someone to walk toward and aren't wandering around aimlessly,' says Eve Marx, author of Read My Hips. 'As you make your way towards your friend, focus on stepping in big paces, which helps your presence resonate and elongates your body.'
Make Playful Eye Contact
Try this technique: 'Lock eyes with someone you're interested in, hold his gaze for three seconds – max – and then glance down and away,' says Andersen. 'Catch his eye once or twice more to reinforce you want him. That should be enough to encourage him to come over.' The major confidence-boosting effect: you're taking the initiative without actually making a move.
Approach From The Side
Looking is one thing; approaching is much trickier. Rather than coming up to a guy head-on, slide in next to him. 'A full-frontal introduction might automatically put him on the defensive because it's quite an aggressive, adversarial approach,' explains Audrey Nelson, author of You Don't Say. 'Arriving from the side is less intimidating and makes you seem more mysterious too, since he doesn't see you coming straight at him.' You will feel a lot more relaxed and sure of yourself if you are not making such a direct move.
Squeeze His Hand
'When you're shaking hands with a hot guy, make quick eye contact while subtly, briefly squeezing his hand at the same time,' says Marx. 'The pressure subconsciously reads to men as a sexual move because it is an unexpected intimacy.' It conveys you're a bold woman who isn't afraid to use a little force. And you'll get a thrill from it, too! When you throw your head back and let rip with a laugh, it shows confidence and a sense of fun. 'Laughter not only grabs attention, it also showcases that you're happy, vibrant and having fun, which are all inherently sexy, self-assured qualities,' explains Tricia Yeomans, a researcher who studies flirting behaviour.
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